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An Alternative to Hoarding or Purging: Frame It!

My first flower bouquet--from my dad on my 8th birthday--and a silhouette of my great-grandmother
My first flower bouquet--from my dad on my 8th birthday--and a silhouette of my great-grandmother

My first flower bouquet–from my dad on my 8th birthday–and a silhouette of my great-grandmother

I
married a pack rat.  The Hubs and I are alike in many ways, but when it comes to parting with old junk (my phrase), there is rarely a meeting of the minds.

It’s actually kind of sweet, because–bless his heart–he’s just so darn sentimental about his childhood treasures (his phrase) and other relics of the past.

But, he’s also sentimental about my ”childhood treasures.”

When each of our 11 moves afforded an opportunity to purge our home of unnecessary things, we would inevitably have a conversation along these lines:

Hubs: “You’re not throwing THAT away, are you?”

Me: “Well I don’t see myself needing a [embarrassingly bad] painting from a 5th grade poster contest anytime soon. Do you?”

Hubs: “Oh, but you did it. It’s great! We have to keep it. It’s about the memories.”

Me: “Seriously?”

I have to confess that in my  hoarder-phobia, instead of honoring my dear husband’s request, I threw the poster (along with some other choice junk) in the trunk of our car. On our next run to the apartment complex dumpster, Hubs hopped out to dispose of our garbage .

And…the poster fell at his feet.

Sigh. I was outed and again the proud owner of a laminated copy of “Autumn on the Lake,” a depiction of scary bird-like creatures hovering over a watery blob. 

Our world map, with colored-coded pins for places we've been together and homes of people we love

Our world map, with colored-coded pins for places we’ve been together and homes of people we love

An Alternative to Hoarding/Extreme Purging

My new bottom line for old junk is this: decide on a reasonable amount of memorabilia to box up and keep for posterity.

Trash or frame the rest.

That’s right. If it’s meaningful enough to keep, you might as well slap some wood and glass around that puppy and call it art.

Rather than letting it collect dust or mouse droppings in the basement, put it on display. So you can actually enjoy it.

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What I like to frame

  • Invitations & save the dates
  • Maps
  • Pressed flowers and leaves
  • Kids’ artwork (no, “Autumn on the Lake” will not be debuting in our home anytime soon)
  • Special notes
  • Memorabilia relating to important events like births
  • Any other meaningful trinkets that will fit in a shadow box
My childhood home in Virginia and clovers picked in Ireland

My childhood home in Virginia and clovers picked in Ireland

Because Fall trumps all other seasons

Because Fall trumps all other seasons

Framed piece upper in the left is the email I wrote from the hospital to friends and family, 2 hours after birthing the Buckaroo

Framed piece in the upper left is the email I wrote from the hospital to friends and family, 2 hours after birthing the Buckaroo

Here’s to shadow boxes or the Salvation Army…whichever you prefer.

What memorabilia could you slap a frame on?

  • Andrea Russell

    I’m about to go on a purging binge myself! We are probably going to be moving in the next month/month and a half! Thanks for the ideas :) Ill let you know if I end up with some new “art” for our new house :) PS Your childhood home in Virginia looks amazing!! I almost want to take a vacay there! ;)

  • Brenda Venable

    Sweet photos, great memories too. Thanks for sharing with us.

  • http://divineimperfections.typepad.com Jen

    Oh my goodness, my husband is gonna be so glad I (the sentimental one in the family) read this.

    Might even save us from having a similar situation with some old artwork of our own. :)

    Thanks for sharing.

    • http://www.asimplehaven.com Jenn

      Well, it’s good that there always seems to be one sentimental one in the fam; keeps the other one from over-purging :) .

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  • Lina

    This post really makes me smile as it happens in our family too. I, however, play the role of your Hub and my man likes to throw it all out. I have saved a few things for him over the years that I knew he threw out in haste. Stuff he was later pleased I did keep for him. =)

    I am a child of real hoarders so I know I need to be extremely careful as to not fall into that. When my father died last year he left us a house FULL of stuff. I decided that I would take two of the shelves he had on the wall and I was only allowed to keep what could fit on them. Things went back and forth for a while and then I set on things I always wanted but found at his house (if they didnt already have a sentimental value) Thus it quelled my need to keep it all.

    Great idea about the frame.

    Lina

    • http://www.asimplehaven.com Jenn

      Lina, I have to say, I often find myself glad my husband has saved certain things, too :) .

  • http://smallstepsbigpicture.wordpress.com Christie

    Love this idea. I do not enjoy having things that are supposed to be “special” hidden away somewhere.

    This is the perfect solution.

    By nature, I’m definitely what I call a throwawayaholic; but having kids is making me think about what sentimental things should be saved.

    Can’t wait to try this idea! And yes, fall definitely trumps all other seasons.

    • http://www.asimplehaven.com Jenn

      Christie–yes, having kids has made me slow down my purging, too! :) I need to start following my own advice with my daughter’s pile of masterpieces–figure out what to frame, what to keep elsewhere, and what to discard.